1. step – PRACTICE
Patience, gratefulness, self-love, discipline, as well as mindfulness, are skills to be learned.
Those skills won’t be gained by trying them once in a month for a few minutes. Each skill has its learning curve; it is a process, and the only way to gain any skills is through practice.
Many people fail to become their desired self, just because they don’t want to practice, they don’t want to put in the time or the work, and they want to be able to have everything now – immediately – in the best scenario without making any effort at all.
Forcing yourself to practice can be mentally painful, and it takes stepping out of your comfort zone over and over again, but I promise you, it’s worth it.
Being mindful means being aware of your surroundings, of your life and self.
Practice paying attention to all that.
In the beginning, you can pick one area and focus on being mindful there. With practice, you will be soon able to connect those areas and live mindfully overall.
Observe intentionally what is around you, concentrate on the air, sounds, smells, nature, people or animals – look at those things, calm your mind and try not to engage with any thoughts of yours – only be.
The way to understand yourself, accept yourself, love yourself and heal is through being mindfull and present with your inner self as well as with your surroundings. Focus on your emotions, feelings, and sensations you are experiencing in different life situations.
Stay calm and observe every detail such as your skin and hair, your physique and your energy.
If you struggle with making yourself practice, make mindfulness as a challenge for yourself – try the 3-step HOW TO Finish a Challenge guide to help you start.
2. step – PRESENT MOMENT
You have the opportunity to practice mindfulness for free every day.
Being mindful is connected to being present; you can hardly do one without the other and becoming present is essential for being mindful. You can check the 3-step HOW TO Be Present later.
How does it work?
Let’s look at some examples of how “being present” looks like: when you wake up and open your eyes for the first time – become consciously present. Don’t allow your thoughts to uncontrollably explode.
This way can be mindful about what you do next. Do you grab a phone and start scrolling? Do you get coffee? Or will you meditate?
Don’t do your mornings or any part of the day on autopilot. Be aware of your daily actions and think about how they are affecting your life.
What about when you go get breakfast? Don’t allow your mind to sneak into the tasks of th upcoming day, stay present and be mindful about the food you eat.
Does it have all the nutrition you need? Does it make you full for long enough? Where does your food come from? How does it make your body feel?
What was my struggle?
When I started my shift to mindful living through being present, I had one area where I struggled for a long time – mindful eating.
I always felt the urge to do some other activity next to eating as I didn’t want to “waste time while I eat”.
When I am writing it now, I smile because on this little story I see how far I have gotten over the years. “Waste time while eating”, really Sarah, how could you even say that?
As you can see, everyone has their specific challenges in different self-development areas. The “something” that is just harder than everything else.
For me, it was mindful eating, that took me the longest to adopt, but the most important thing is to never give up because of that one harder “something” and always try to find a way how to deal with it.
I had to create a mini ritual for myself in order to learn mindful eating, but once I started using it, the struggle was gone.
There are plenty of opportunities to practice mindfulness throughout your day, more precisely, every second of your day is such an opportunity and the very goal here is to be present and mindful during the whole day.
One of the best ways to start developing your mindfulness skill is meditation; you can check the full 3-step guide on HOW TO Meditate right here.
3. step – REMINDER
Very often, life gets too busy, and we lose the ability to be here and now – to be present, and hand in hand with that comes the inability to be mindful.
How could you possibly stay mindful about what you are doing when you are already thinking about what you will do in next hour, where you have to be, what tasks are awaiting you or what meetings are ahead?
My advice here is to create a reminder. Something unique that will catch your eyes during the day as many times as possible and its presence will set you back to your mindful state of mind.
It can be a bracelet, ring, tattoo, or even an alarm on your phone. Whatever works the best for you
When I was learning how to be present and mindful I bought a non-toxic fix and wrote the word “now” on the bottom of my wrist.
Therefore every time I did something with my hands I knew I had to slow down my breathing and become present again, which naturally led me to be more mindful.
Practice mindfulness, stay present and remind yourself to do so and you will soon be experiencing the benefits of living a mindful life.
- The Ultimate Daily Planner – do you want to track your mindfulness, meditation, procrastination and much more? Take a look at my daily planner that I and other self-developers use every day to keep improving.
- The Mindfulness Challenge – take up this challenge once it is released and improve your level of conscious mindfulness in just 1 WEEK. Subscribe and get notified when the challenge is out! It’s coming soon!
The Guided Meditation You Need ♥ 15 Minute Mindfulness – if mindfulness is something you strive to learn and you want to work on it and practice it every day, meditation is the technique I use and also recommend. Any meditation will help you ground and become more aware but practicing meditation focused specifically on mindfulness will be extra beneficial here. Juliana and Mark are incredible souls with hearts as big as the ocean. They create mainly yoga videos, but their guided meditation series is the real treasure to me. Following Juliana’s soothing voice filled with love and compassion will bring you “here and now” almost immediately.
- Mindfullness.com – as I mentioned earlier, mindfulness has become a hugely popular topic in the past few years. Now you can find websites entirely dedicated to spreading mindfulness all over the planet and perceiving mindfulness as something that if adopted by every single human on earth, could change the world. And I agree.
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