1. step – FINDING “WHY”
Self-discipline could be described as an ability to make yourself do whatever you want to do, without the need of anyone or anything external pushing you to.
Now the question is “why” would you want to make yourself do anything?
What is the purpose, the “why”, behind your need for self-discipline?
And most importantly, does the “why” mean enough to you to go through the hustle of gaining self-discipline skill?
Why do you want to learn self-discipline, hm?
Is it to achieve something? To finish something? To make a change in your life?
The first step is to take the time and find this “why”.
And if your “why” is not strong, positive and selfless enough, it’s time to create such a “why” for yourself now.
It’s a common assumption that some people have better self-discipline than others and thats just the way it is, but I believe the truth to be the complete opposite.
During my life, I have met over a few thousand people, and I talked to them about their mental obstacles, experience, and dreams.
The only difference between the people who had self-discipline and those who hadn’t was the “why” behind their self-discipline – their life purpose.
Believe it or not, I was a chronic procrastinator for most of my teen years.
I tried every guide, trick and how to. I read multiple books on self-discipline and even got coached for a while – nothing helped me to get self-disciplined.
I had trouble waking up early. Yoga in the morning, which I always wanted practice, has been just another thing I felt guilty for not doing due to the lack of my self-discipline.
Eating healthy, taking care of my mental health, finishing school or work tasks, and eventually even washing the dishes has been usually postponed for no other reason than me not being able to make myself do them.
What is the secret then?
When I am writing this HOW TO, it is now 365 + 27 days of me working on the SELF DEVELOPMENT SPACE project and let me tell you, I have never been more disciplined in my life!
I get up every morning at 6 am, I do a plank for a minute, I drink 1 liter of pure water, I practice yoga, have healthy breakfast and head excitedly to tackle the tasks of my day.
All those things require self-discipline that I never had and never successfully learned, so how is it possible that I could suddenly make myself do them all?
The secret was, that I have finally chosen my “why” – a strong, positive and selfless life purpose. Dedicated to helping all of you on your self-development journey to become the best version of yourself and making the SELF DEVELOPMENT SPACE better and bigger every day so it can offer you everything you could need for your personal growth.
The thought of my “why” is the first thing on my mind the moment I open my eyes in the morning.
My “why” pulls me out of the bed so I can spend another day living for my purpose.
And if finding the “why” did that for me, it will do the same for you.
Explore the 3-step guide for HOW TO Find your “whys” later.
2. step – ROUTINE
When it comes to discipline, having a routine truly helps.
The key is to take whatever you need to get done, and need the discipline for, as a scheduled task that must be done.
Perceive it the same way as you would perceive having a doctor appointment or a business meeting – it’s a done deal, and you are going there and doing it no matter whether you “feel like it” or not.
It is not optional.
Creating a routine will help you because you will set the time for your action in advance.
This way, when the time comes, you keep going acording to your routine, and every action is just another task in the day that needs to be done.
The goal is to see all the tasks in your routine the same way as brushing your teeth in the morning.
To not think about the task as it’s something you could skip but look at it as something that is always done at the scheduled time almost on autopilot.
When creating a new routine, don’t be too hard on yourself and even underestimate yourself a bit.
Our mind is always more excited to work more if we manage to finish all 5/5 tasks of the day, than going to sleep knowing we only finished 5/15.
The result is the same, we did 5 tasks, but if you opt for the 5/5, you will feel proud of yourself and inspired to slowly increase the number of tasks as long as you are making them all happen.
This strategy is so much more effective than falling asleep knowing that you again didn’t manage all 15/15 tasks.
So, be realistic when creating your routine and be kind to yourself.
If you set the bar too high and plan 15 tasks for yourself each day, you will feel unnecessarily demotivated which will only resolve in you hating the routine and eventually hating your entire life.
3. step – SELF-CARE
Health is everything, period.
We can only perform at the highest when we are at our best, physically and mentally.
Staying healthy in both of these areas should be a top priority for you as it is essential for being able to follow your “why”, your purpose and give it your 100%.
When you lack quality sleep, don’t eat regularly and often opt for junk food, and your free time activities consist of watching Netflix or clicking through Insta stories, you just can’t achieve same results as someone who goes to bed at 10 pm, sleeps for 8 hours, eats clean and spends his free time exercising or reading.
I look at health from the complex point of view; therefore I believe that our health is not only about the physical body but also about the mind.
Therefore self-care, mental and physical, is the best investment you can ever make and you will benefit from it in every area of your life.
Once I made the conscious decision to prioritize self-care, my self-discipline ability has improved beyond recognition.
Because even if you have solid life purpose, you will still have trouble getting out of the bed in the morning. Because self-disciplined or not, if your mind is uncleansed and your body has no energy, you are doomed.
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- The ZERO Motivation Challenge – are you ready to test your self-discipline? Challenge yourself and complete tasks that you couldn’t finish for months or even years in 1 WEEK!
- The Ultimate Daily Planner – if you want to take your self-discipline to a whole new level, get my daily planner, that I and other self-developers use to get 100% out of their lives and to work on their self-discipline consistently.
- Why is finding your purpose so important? – Dr. Kate Siner takes you quickly through the reasons why having a life purpose is essential and how exactly will you benefit from having it.
How to Discipline Yourself With 10 Habits – do you remember the step no. 2? It was creating a routine, and this article offers 10 habits that you can consider adopting when you will be creating yours. Just make sure to read the step no.2 once again, so you remember the importance of not going for the “overachiever” type of routine.
If Self-Discipline Feels Difficult, Then You’re Doing It Wrong – as legendary as Mark Manson is, also is his article on self-discipline. Do you remember me mentioning the importance of having a life purpose in order to be self-disciplined? Good, because here is another reason why. If you have a life purpose there is a big chance you love it (since you freely and willingly picked it yourself) and you will enjoy every activity connected to living for that purpose. Mark is explaining this concept brilliantly with his epic sense of humor as usual.
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